Once I first met my long life companion I told myself “This is a tryout after all for sure he’s not my soul mate and he’s too old for me anyway!” 🙂 I started my game of “let me have some fun,” after all having a short fling one could never go wrong.
Twenty-three years later my game is still on…Ha! Ha! Ha!
Caught up in my own web, I encountered one of the most genuine people in my life to date. It took me some time to come around and I have no regrets about it.
Friendship has become part of my existence and a word I have come to know and admire. My friends, it takes a lot of effort and endurance with relationships, it can be as complex as you want it to be or as free spirited as you allow it. That’s not to say I didn’t have my share of complexity, me traveling and working on developing my craft, he busy doing his business at the time. Strenuous as this was we had a great respect and understanding for each other’s space.
I came from the outside with my theory of how I should deal with such a relationship while he brought an unassuming multitude of love and utter gratitude. It is here where I gained knowledge of what it is to love unconditionally and what is the definition of a true friend.
I remember being haughty around his friends, always criticizing them but, never once did he try to restrict me in anyway. He was sympathetic and willing to understand what my fears were. Throwing in the towel never entered his mind let alone him voicing it. As time passed by, I understood the depth of his psyche and the compassion he has for others, I have learnt a lot from him over the years. He taught me how to embrace others without judgment, to observe with love and to keep an open mind. Our strength, liberty, trust and appreciation for each other have grown immensely. He never ceases to tell me how much he loves me or how beautiful I look; there is always a word from him to uplift my spirit.
Not long ago one of my friends told me that he brought humility into my life, that he made me more of a beautiful human being. I was thankful for her insight, truly I have come a long way. Today I thank the universe for giving me the privilege to share part of my experience with you all and I wish you the success of finding true friendship as we begin yet another year….Happy New Year to all and a FANGA-ful New Year to all true friends that have crossed our paths!
you write so beautiful you should write a book.
you have so many stories. It is great.
What a great an inspiring message! What a life! Having met that friend I could hear him saying, “Hilary you look beautiful!” God bless you and that SPECIAL friend and I wish you, HIM and all your other friends God’s richest blessings for the New Year 2011. Happiness is where the heart lies.
Lovely and touching – have the greatest, 2011 in all aspects of life 🙂
Good for you Hillary,not every one finds that in their lifetime,thanks for the enlightenment ……..Vino..
Hillary, I was looking forward for today to read, and you’ve touched my heart.I felt like crying. Have a blessed day. Fanga!
Beautifully versed, deep and meaningful, honest and lovely to reflect back upon.
Thank You for sharing this with both Cristina and moi.
One cannot buy health nor happiness, real friends are invaluable.
2010 was a good year and so pleased our paths have crossed.
I look forward to the future and wish you a healthy, happy and wonderful 2011.
…a great read. Very sincere and honest Hilary. Happy New Year to you!