Looking for single male/female smart, good looking, sense of humor……. the list can go on. The dating game, the search for love, if played smartly you might find that moment of excitement. However, the question is how long would it last?
What is it and why is it so hard for most of us to connect to that one thing we are looking for….Love? Maybe ‘looking’ should not be the action on which we focus. I say this because most times when we ‘look’ we paint a picture in our mind and this sometimes could attract the wrong images to our conscious mind. If we focus on those images already formed in the conscious mind it leaves the mind without thought or substance. So the first thing we see is the physical attributes of that person and then boom, we find ourselves in the bliss of infatuation without knowing what we truly desire in that person.
Case in point, I have a friend whose ex-husband is not only a successful professional but as handsome as you can get them (every woman’s dream)! However, knowing of the problems she still encounters with him to this day, even after many years of being divorced, I decided to ask her what was the reason she got married to him. Was it out of love or vanity? Her response, “I honestly cannot remember :-)”
She was married for seven years. Within that period she had no relations with him for two years, even though they were still under the same roof, and in the first five years she had two kids. Now divorced and suffering the consequences of having a great-looking hunk of a man today she is thinking and taking her time with her choices.
Many single candidates are out there looking for warmth, support, passion, a match made in heaven and all that is great. However, most of us go into relationships lacking empathy, consideration and respect for the other person’s space. Couples seem to overlook that becoming a unit should by no means hinder the individuality of the other.
So what exactly is Love? It is my personal belief that – Love is freedom. Love is an entity by itself. Love is everything. Love is full acceptance of all races. Love is to feel compassion, to have the freedom to forgive unconditionally which then becomes the biggest force to release us from all our ropes and ties. This is love!