This week I take the pleasure to share with you a piece written by a dear friend of mine, Yafit Israel. There is so much more I can say about Yafit but I think this week’s blog would speak for itself….so enjoy and feel free to share your thoughts. FANGA!
“Nudnik” – A Hebrew word coined in Israel to basically refer to people who constantly nag you. You know those kinds? The ones who constantly irritate you and regardless of how much you try to use every patient bone in your body to tolerate them you just can’t. So eventually you lose your temper and tell them off in such a barrage of expletives that you need to use soap and water to wash your mouth after……. Right! I’m sure you now know what I mean by ‘nudnik’.
Throughout my life I have been very careful to manage my relationships to avoid ‘nudniks’ but somehow along the way I managed to marry one. Yes, the ‘nudnik-expert’ now constantly has to answer the questions which she hates, “To whom are you talking?”, “Where were you today?”, “Who is this friend you have on Facebook?”, and it goes on and on……
I’m sure some of you can relate to what I am saying. These ‘nudniks’ just have the impeccable skill of ALWAYS asking questions at the wrong time. And even when we give them the benefit of the doubt and assume the question was asked with good intentions they still manage to rub you the wrong way. So there you again losing your temper and if they were none the wiser you would definitely be committed to an asylum.
But really what is the gain from losing our control like this? Does it prevent the ‘nudnik’ from annoying you the next day or the day after that? Do you feel better about yourself? I am sure after some deep reflection you will realize that each time the answers are the same, “No!” So why didn’t you exercise better self-control? You know the drill, count to 10, take a deep breath, walk away from the situation, do anything else but lose your control. My dear friend Hillary once said to me, “When you lose control like that you are giving away your power.” Is this what we want? Should someone have such control over us that we allow them to steal our joy and take away our peace of mind? I am sure the answer is NO.
So lately I am trying not to be annoyed by my ‘well intended-husband’. After all the problem does not lie with him, he just asked a question. I am the one who need to receive his questions with good energy and respond with that same positive energy (though his motives may have been quite sinister indeed).
We must be in control at all times and losing our temper or allowing others to destabilize us does not add any value to our lives but instead shows up our weaknesses and of course creates unnecessary problems in our relationships. So friends of FANGA I make a promise to you to not allow any ‘nudnik’ to take away my FANGA for the next 7 days! Care to join me?